3 ways to nix your negative workplace
If you haven’t experienced it- count yourself lucky! It creeps into most workplaces at one time or another. That smelly, rotten, work environment that causes you to roll out of bed and dread going to work. Maybe there’s a group of people that don’t accept you, or maybe there is just that one stinker that makes your life a little more difficult.
Sometimes (but not often) the culture of the entire business is built on making people feel small and scared. If this is the case- It’s a simple fix- RUN! Seriously, you can’t control the entire business. Step away and get out.
Now, for the most part, when a negative work environment appears it is usually just a small group of people that are insecure enough to try to push you down so they can feel better about themselves. If you are experiencing this- there are 3 ways to separate yourself from this environment while continuing to do a great job for your company.
1. Show compassion. Contrary to popular belief, often times when adults are mean or exclude you, it’s because they’re mean to themselves and don’t accept themselves. They are living in their own little world of hatred and despair. They may even be going through a tough journey unknown to anyone. No, that doesn’t give them the right to treat you poorly, but they may not have the skills that you have. You are emotionally evolved enough to know that you will experience success by accepting the responsibility of taking the high road to get what you need. An example of the high road:
Try asking “Did I do something to offend you?” OR “Is there something that is stressing you out that I can help with?” They will likely ask why you think that- then the lines of communication are open. Speak with kindness and truth.
2. Stand your ground. Being kind does not mean being a pushover. If they say something inappropriate or hurt you - go ahead and tell them. Just make sure you do it in a professional way. I always like to start these conversations like this- “________, I didn’t really appreciate the way you spoke to me in that meeting, it made me feel _______.” Then shhhh…just let them talk. See what he or she has to say. If they tell you that you are overreacting (this is a common manipulation technique used by many) just calmly and politely respond: “Perhaps, but it is still the way I feel.” Then drop it. Let it go. You have told them, they have responded, and you have reiterated how you feel. This isn't about being right- it is about standing up. They will keep thinking about it and believe me- it will likely cause them to be more aware of their actions. In most instances, the person will apologize because they were so wrapped up in their own turmoil they didn’t realize they were passing their “pissy” onto you.
This is the trick- you need to teach people how to treat you. There isn’t room for disrespect ever. Don’t forget that- You deserve at all times to be treated with respect.
3. Lead on superstar! Focus on doing your best work and being your best version of yourself. When you do and act your best you will end up with a whole new confidence level. Suddenly understanding that you are in control of your attitude and success. Get busy worrying about YOU and your successes and how you contribute to your team.
Stay away from the negativity and hostility, don’t even play the game. Disengage. Shine your bright light on everything you do and remember, you are in complete control my friend. The power is in you.
Dream big. Allow the cool stuff to happen.
Wishing you positive work experiences,
Diana